Breaking up with someone because you both fell out of love is practically a walk in the park. The final conversation you have as a couple is merely for formality’s sake. You don’t need anything for each other anymore; that’s why words like “I wish you well” or “I hope you’ll find happiness” sound sincere.
If you decide to split with your significant other since you realized that it’s only you who’s in love, though, that is when you tend to exhibit signs of depression. You always feel sad whenever you remember how poorly he or she treated you. At times, tears flow down your cheeks as you think of the things you did to please him or her. It’s not surprising if you wonder at this point too whether you’ll still be able to find someone who will care for you as much as you do.
Despite the gloomy days that you may deal with post-breakup, it is a fact that you are better off without a person who can’t love you back. Dry up your tears now so you can read the words you should tell yourself if depression strikes again during your healing period.
1. It’s Not The End Of The World
A breakup does not mean that an apocalypse is about to come. It can understandably feel that way, primarily if you have made your ex the center of your universe. The truth, however, is that you know this person for a few years only. You were able to live the rest of your life without him or her. Hence, you ought to believe that you can survive in the future even though you two are no longer together.
2. I Don’t Deserve To Wait For Him Or Her Forever
Some people feel depressed over a breakup because they have an internal conflict about the necessity of the separation. “Maybe if I waited longer, he or she would have loved me again.” While we’re not saying that it won’t ever happen, this dream usually comes true in the movies alone. In reality, it is unfair for you to act like a martyr and keep on waiting for someone to see your value. You deserve more affection than that.
3. There’s No Need To Keep On Fooling Myself
In conjunction with the previous idea, you should also believe that you made the right decision since you’ll be fooling yourself otherwise. That ex may seem as if he or she feels crushed by your words or that their world will be dark without you, but it is unwise to trust them. Remember that a man or woman in love will not waste his or her time being cold in front of someone who’s special in their eyes. Considering you always have to beg for attention even when they’re not too busy, you need to accept the harsh truth that this person does not love you anymore.
Reading the ideas above may make you want to cry some more – we are aware of that. However, our wish is that it will be the last time you will cry for someone who does not deserve you. Move on now – you have to do it not for anyone else but yourself. It’s not as hard as you envision once you think about the things you’ve been through due to your ex.